Absolute, no ??

In our daily life, we often have to made some choices, and give some answer for the person who requested so. In exams, sometimes we might meet with some MCQ question, is either ABCD, or sometimes even E. But in the real world, doesnt that mean life just with a yes or no ? an A, B, C or D will settle everything ? I'll answer you sadly, no. I believe in this world, nothing can be so absolute.

One example that I thought of earlier of today is that, is democracy really that democracy ? This is very depend to situation, to the people who controlling, and many factors around. There is always a group of people supporting this, which we make it symbolic as A, and is a good side. Where there is A, there is always B appear, which also have people supporting them, and a dark side. For me, I view democracy as a fair system, but when people who controlling that said yes means yes. Said no means no. At that time, there is nothing called democracy.

If democracy really exist, there must be someone who is "democratic" enough to have the power to rule the world, or to control certain thing, then only A and B will be controllable.

Before this, I always thought that woman is always mafan or annoying, and need to take care many things. But again the real world proof to me that some guys have the same problem as well, and I cannot said woman is troublesome as a whole, and I feel this very unfair to them. So, I start to realise everything else isnt that absolute as well.

Written on March 2009

Posted July 2011

Return of the Legendary

Around few months ago also, I feel that I'd realise what I want to be, and what I really want. But things changed 180 degree when during the final exam, I keep thinking and thinking the problem continuously, hoping that it can lead to a conclusion. After that, only I know that I'd been defeated again, not by whom, maybe by myself, and the environment. Not able to get use to the environment will cause much failure. From the first post until this one, Im still in failure, and I dont deny that I failed. That is the reality and reality often dissapoint us. A friend of mine told me that you must keep fighting, keep trying until the end. Yes, I did so, but still fail. You cannot say that I never do well enough, and what I did had been acknowledge by other people. Even say to regret, but at these time, I got no space or even a single chance to regret on my decision, because there is no point for me to regret. If regret will bring me back to the time, then I think maybe I'll try to regret once and see how is the situation. Haha...
At the very least, dont regret on your decision you'd ever made. If not, the decision will haunt you till the very last second of your life. Cheer up.
Btw, why this is called the return of the legendary ? Once upon a time, I used to call myself a legendary general sun. General Sun is a nickname developed by myself through a game. Why I choose sun is because sun can shine so brightly and really can make use of yourself to help, to guide and to teach others. But apparently this sun start to tired, but hopefully it will shine back. Give him one year time to proof everything :D Legendary will strikes back ~

Passion

Few months ago, I realise that dissapointment kill my everything, passion for life.
I got no more reason to continue study, although I have to study.
I got no more reason to get a great result, because there is no motivation for doing so.
I got no more reason to continue as a president of mmu buddhist society, although still in my mind, but I have to keep on struggling, because this society is like a son of mine. I just cannot let go so easily and let other people to spoil it. If want to break it, also Im the one who break. Thus, here is the quotation from me : 被别人折磨，不如自己折磨自己( It is better to make yourself suffering rather than suffering that caused by the others to you ). I'll continue this in Malay, because I feel it is more kampung, and indeed, im a kampung boy ~ hahaha ~

Kalau orang lain mampu menyebabkan sengsara ke atas diri anda, kenapa dia mempunyai kuasa yang sebegitu untuk buat benda sebegini ke atas anda ? Apa yang hebat sangat dengan dia tu ? Kalau macam ini, lebih baik anda sendiri yang membuat anda sendiri sengsara, itu akan membuatkan anda sendiri untuk rasa lebih baik kerana tiada siapa yang lebih berkuasa ke atas diri sendiri kecuali diri anda sendiri. Itulah yang membawa saya kepada kata-kata di atas. Mari kita sambung lagi.

Saya tidak mempunyai apa-apa sebab untuk mempunyai kekasih, kerana sudah tiada kuasa untuk menjaga diri saya, apa lagi untuk menjaga orang lain.
Selain itu, satu daripada kata saya telah memberi inspirasi kepada salah seorang kawan saya untuk berfikir lebih banyak mengenai dia, iaitu "anda adalah satu beban besar kepada ayah ibu dan orang lain sekitar dia". Itu bukanlah untuk mencaci dia, tetapi untuk menyedarkan dia bahawa apa yang dia lalukan, dia perlulah bertanggungjawab terhadap orang yang berjasa kepada dia. Sekiranya dia tidak bertanggungjawab terhadap diri sendiri, orang lain juga tidak berkuasa untuk membuatkan dia untuk bertanggungjawab terhadap dia sendiri. Seperti yang dikata saya sebentar tadi, orang lain tidak mempunyai kuasa terhadap diri sendiri, kecuali kalau anda tidak mahu berkuasa terhadapnya. Ada sekali, dia pernah memberitahu saya bahawa hidup ini memang penuh dengan beban.

One day, I'd find my friend to talk what is passion really about. What really the thing that bring you going forward in your life ? He said that since he was in university, he in love deeply with those regarding cultural, art and tradition. Dia merasa sungguh gembira dan penuh dengan semangat apabila dia bersama-sama dengan benda sebegini. Dia membuatkan kesenian sebagai salah satu daripada agenda dalam hidup dia, dan besar kemungkinan itulah yang sentiasa meggerakkan dia untuk terus maju ke hadapan. Walaupun kita tidak tahu apa yang ada di hadapan. Bercakap mengenai benda yang saya sukai, iaitu muzik. Dalam ingatan saya, semasa saya berada di dalam band sebelum spm saya, saya berasa sangat gembira dan memang menghayati saat saat dimana saya dalam latihan menyanyi lagu-lagu, dimana saya berpeluang untuk membuat persembahan di atas pentas, dan bersinar seperti matahari di atas pentas. Tetapi saat saat ini hanya boleh dikenangi sekarang. Saya berasa amat sedih kerasa sehingga sekarang, saya tidak mempunyai peluang untuk berbuat benda sebegini lagi. Tapi saya masih berharap untuk melakukannya, dan saya harap saya boleh. Pada masa itu, saya berasa amat sedih dan tidak tahu apakah arah sebenar saya, tetapi setelah mengetahui apa yang saya hilang pada mada ini, saya telah membuat keputusan untuk membuat apa yang saya mahu sahaja, lebih berfokus kepada bidang muzik, sebagai hobi saya sahaja, kerana akhirnya, impian dan realiti adalah berbeza dan kurang sekali artis muzik dapat menguasai apa yang dia ada dalam kerjayanya. Lebih-lebih sekali dalam Malaysia. Haha...

Saya akan menyambung satu lagi artikle dalam sekejap lagi. Semoga anda juga dapat mencari dan menyedari apa yang patut anda buat untuk menggerakkan anda. Sadhu ~

Life ...

I still remember that before this, the heart of me to establish a buddhist society in my campus would be a great thing, but apparently not after it establish. One of my friend said that dream is a dream, but when you realise that dream actually doesnt seems as what you which for, you will definately lost your direction, your passion and many more. Actually this somehow related to myself that happened. Firstly, what I hope for the buddhist society to look like is everyone is willing to share and care each other, work together well, and when I think back, yes, that is my dream. Compare to the condition now, oh no ... Haih.

I monitored myself for this whole sem, and realise that myself doesnt seems to be myself, because of what i react, what i done, what i thought of ... many things. The first thing is my academic. Although I'm not a very genius student, or wanted for a very very high grade for my exam result, but of course everyone would hope for the best in their exam. When thinking of this sem, I really think that what I've done so far is a failure. Even though people may think that you got your president and vice president, why you still fail ? I failed because the reality doesnt appear to be what I hope for, which the situation now is being worst than what I thought of. Inside class, I'd really hope that I'm able to concentrate, but I'd like to say that what the teacher teach is slowly making me feeling more and more sleepy, and I did try to concentrate everytime I go to his/her class, but end up still the same. Not saying Im not hardworking or dont want to go for the class, but since I learn nothing from the class, there is no more objective that need me to go for the class anymore.

Talking about the word "anymore", we always use "dont want anymore", and what causes that ? A passion towards one thing, normally if not for bad thing, is a very good thing because what makes you go and do one thing is that passion for a people to do a thing. That is what cause people to have momentum, strenght, and hope to live for. This "passion" is a very abtract thing. If it would appear infront of me, I'd like to question him/her something. The same thing as a person's heart. If I can question it,(i hope so), many things that I can give an appropriate answer. All this while, dissapointment really kill my passion, I think for everything. Why would I say so ? Let me start with an example first. If you're a worker of a company and your job is to sell the product, very often that your objective is to reach a certain target of sales quantity. You're also a person who like very much to deal with your customers, deal with people, as long as they are happy with the product. But recent economic crisis made you loss your customers, dissapointed you because you cannot reach some certain amount of sales. What is more important is you are not happy with what you are doing now anymore. The job for you is totally nothing, no value to you already. When this happen, there is where the dissapointment take place and soon will try to lost the hope for everything else. Lost passion to everything, to be passionate enough to continue live on and know what you are doing, as well as happy to the point you're living now. Haha... Sorry for giving you such a long example. But that is what really happen on me, but not as a salesman of course. Although Im able to make my first event successfully, everyone did enjoy a happy day, but when evaluating things, it doesnt appear to be so. Practically is one thing, but when on the paper where everything is just yes or no, the reality will appear to be cruel to everyone. The event fail in a quite serious situation, which I dont want to talk about anymore. Continue back to passion thingy, these kind of dissapointment slowly make me to avoid with things. For example, in some assignment group, when people trying to take me as a group leader, mostly I'll reject it because Im tired of leading people, and we cannot ignore that when there is people, there will be problems occur. There is another situation where people arguing with me about their point, and when the person appear to be a person that "cannot afford to lose" even though the truth is there, but he/she will definately argue until a never-ending. I often meet this kind of situation recently, and what I think is no matter how long or how you want to debate or argue with these kind of people, they or the thing will never solve. So the best thing is to avoid the conversation to continue. I hate this kind of situation actually. If really the person doesnt let me go, I'll definately challenge him until one is on the ground(i hope u understand this). Because of continuous meeting this kind of unsolve-able problem, avoidance and ignorance slowly taken my place.

Besides that, even in a relationship matter, I also avoid most of these. There is one time I dream at the night and I regain consciousness inside the dream, means that I can control what I want to do. When dealing with a girl or relationship, the first thing I'd ever do or appear in my mind is FLEE ! Go away as far and as fast as you can. LOL ! Haha... I think I will stay single for the rest of my life. But one thing I realise is woman sometimes is very "mafan/many things to take care". When you are in a relationship, where you go, what you eat, everything, you have to do a report for your girl friend. But also one thing I realise, nothing is absolute, because in reality, there are also some examples showed that guys are the same. I'll share more in the part of absolute or not absolute.